This conversation about healing attachment to find secure love with author and therapist Julie Menanno of @thesecurerelationship was epic and I can’t wait for you to hear it! If you’re serious about getting into a secure relationship, don’t skip this episode.
If you’re wondering how to heal attachment insecurity when you’re not in a relationship, you’ve come to the right podcast! This episode with Julie Menanno from The Secure Relationship includes so many insights about insecure attachment and how it comes into play in early dating.
Once you see it, it’s hard to unsee. The way you react when they take too long to text back. The way you feel when they show a lot of affection. What your body tells you when they say something you’re not sure you agree with. All our emotions, reactions, and behaviors paint a picture of what our relationship with ourselves and our feelings is. This episode dives deep into learning how to become aware of what’s going on beneath the surface and how it affects our dating lives.
I recommend listening to my podcast episode about the four attachment styles before (or after) diving into this one!
“We cannot be in a healthy relationship until we improve that relationship with ourselves. And when I say ourselves, mostly I mean our own feelings.” – Julie Menanno
What we get into:
- Anxiously Attached by Jessica Baum & her Instagram post on healing attachment
- My solo episode on the four attachment styles
- Why reading Secure Love will help you even if you’re single
- How to start healing your attachment insecurity if you don’t work with a therapist
- What your body may be telling you and why you need to listen to it
- Questions to ask yourself when you’re feeling anxiety
- How we participate in relationships every second of the day
- How to know the work we’re doing to heal is working
- How to tune into your body and emotions
- How the negative cycle can start in early dating
- What happens when one partner wants to work on the relationship, but the other partner doesn’t
- Why avoiding avoidants in dating isn’t the way to go
- What to pay attention to in early dating to increase your chances of building a secure relationship
This episode is incredible and it sheds so much light on what’s going on between the lines in dating and relationships.
About Julie Menanno, author of Secure Love:
Julie Menanno (MA, LMFT, LCPC) is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples. She also provides insight and advice for couples at @TheSecureRelationship on Instagram, with over one million followers. She founded and runs the Bozeman Therapy & Counseling clinic, and The Secure Relationship Coaching. She lives in Bozeman, Montana, with her husband and six children.
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Julie’s press-on nail recommendation 💅
A note from Julie: “Make sure to thoroughly use the alcohol wipe, use the kiss impress brush on glue and press them so hard all over the nail for at the very least 30 seconds. I usually press for two minutes.”